480 - How To Take And Give Criticism (Dojo Conversations Episode 147)

Why does criticism feel so uncomfortable, and yet matter so much for growth?

This week, Andrew and Jim unpack the messy, meaningful world of critique: how to receive it without spiraling, how to give it without crushing someone’s spirit, and why feedback is one of the most powerful tools musicians (and humans) have.

From creative-writing workshops to piping circles, they share real stories and practical strategies for handling feedback with curiosity, humility, and a little bit of humor.

Whether you’re tackling musical critique, professional feedback, or that one opinionated bandmate… this episode gives you a playbook for navigating it all.

🎧💭 Criticism stings — but learning to embrace it might just be your super-power.

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💬 What’s the best (or worst) critique you’ve ever gotten?
🎵 How do you approach giving feedback in your band or creative life?

Here’s what we cover this week:

• 00:00 – Intro & banter: apartment amenities & ceiling fan chaos
• 02:00 – Modern marketing and the “what really makes a home?” rant
• 04:00 – Why criticism matters (especially in music)
• 06:00 – Why critique hurts — and why it helps
• 10:00 – How to receive criticism
• 18:00 – When to ignore feedback (jealousy, noise, or tradition-policing)
• 22:00 – How to give criticism
• 30:00 – The social side: culture, groupthink, and competition
• 35:00 – Criticism in systems: loyal opposition & why institutions need critique
• 40:00 – Final thoughts: embracing feedback as fuel for growth
• Related reading:

Check out this article for a deeper dive on giving effective feedback: https://internationalwriterscollective.com/dos-and-donts-of-critiquing/